Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
~ Carl Jung
Counselling for Relationships
As humans we are relational beings. We need other people in our lives to validate our existence and bring meaning to what we do.
Everyone single one of us is unique in the way we see the world. Even members of the same families will have different views, beliefs and behaviours.
These differing world views often result in us experiencing conflict within our relationships. Maybe with siblings, friends, other family members, work colleagues or intimate partners. They can leave us experience a range of emotions such as feeling:
How can counselling help with relationships?
Throughout our childhood and beyond, we learned the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behaviour patterns in relationships. For instance, if a parent/caregiver was easily angered, we learned to avoid conflict. Or if our parent/caregivers were highly anxious, abusive or needy we learned that you always put other’s needs before your own. We adopted behaviours to survive.
All of these unconscious behaviours are taken with us into our adult relationships. Maybe you struggle to voice your needs? Or you avoid conflict at all costs? Or feel guilty if you say no? Or maybe you express your needs through anger and constant arguments?
Counselling can shine a light on childhood behaviours that served you well back then, but no longer serve you now as an adult. Giving yourself the time and space in a safe, non-judgemental environment to really understand your patterns and those of the people in your life enables you to start making active changes in the way you communicate your needs and listen to others’. It helps you introduce healthy boundaries, ensuring you are getting your own needs met. Attending counselling will result in building healthier relationships, and in you living a more contented and fulfilling life.