Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.

~ Eckhart Tolle

Counselling for Anger Issues

Anger is a natural human emotion. It is often triggered when we feel threatened, treated unfairly,  hurt, frustrated or sad. It can be a helpful emotion when channelled in the right way to motivate us to make changes in our lives, or to help protect us from danger. However, when it becomes activated frequently and for long periods of time it can have a negative impact on our lives, on our relationships, our work, our social lives and our overall well-being.

Ongoing anger issues can present themselves in physical, emotional and psychological ways including:

  • Increase in blood pressure

  • Increase in heart rate

  • Bodily tension

  • Quickening of breath

  • Shaking

  • Light-headedness

  • Feeling easily irritable and guilty

  • Feeling overwhelmed

  • Finding it difficult to focus or concentrate

  • Finding it difficult to manage your thoughts

  • Having thoughts of hurting yourself or others

  • Feeling anxious or depressed

How can counselling help with anger issues?

How you manage and deal with your anger will often originate from the environment and behaviours you experienced as a child. If anger was an acceptable behaviour in your household, and showing signs of vulnerability and hurt was unacceptable, then anger may become the default way of expressing all of your emotions. And if you were expected to put on a tough exterior (and maybe still do), and have learned that displaying any other emotions is a weakness, then feelings of anger can become more frequent and overwhelming leaving you feeling out of control.

Counselling can explore the emotions that lie beneath the anger, and help you make sense of why you are feeling the way you are. It can also introduce useful techniques in calming your anger, and becoming aware of early signs and triggers enabling you to intervene before it gets out of control.

Counselling helps you regulate and accept all of your emotions. They are all important and are very much part of being human. Learning to regulate your anger will lead you to building healthier relationships, making better future choices and living a more contented, peaceful life.